From observations of myself I think people when they first like each other should take time to clear any rosy smog clouding their view of the person they admire. Of course not everyone is like me but i see this as a pointer to work on, you don't want any ugly surprises when you are in the middle of a relationship. That's why the statement "you've really changed", is sometimes invalid. Its not that they have changed, its beacuse you didn't take your time to really SEE .
my conclusion - Honesty is Key , :D I love chats with friends they always get you to think.
And to be honest am also at an advantage because I believe that God will help me out the the time comes.